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Dear Queenie
,

  My boyfriend moved in with me a couple of months ago. Before that he was living in his parents’ house. He has never been married and doesn’t have any children. We both have good jobs and he makes just as much money as I do. I have a couple of children I have been raising on my own as their father is not in the picture.

  My problem is my boyfriend never gives me any money for the rent or groceries or utility bills unless I ask him for it. When I ask he gives me whatever I need, but he never offers without being asked. This bothers me no end.

  Queenie, shouldn’t he pay his share without being asked?—Hate asking for money

 

Dear Hate asking,

  Your boyfriend may believe you would be offended if he offered you money without being asked. Or he may be a mama’s boy whose parents have always supported him and who has never had to pay his own way.

  Whatever the reason, he should be paying his share of the household expenses without being asked, but you should have worked this out with him when he first moved in.

  Stop waiting for him to man up. Sit down with him now, work out a household budget and settle the matter of who contributes how much and how the household finances are going to be handled.


Dear Queenie
,

  My boyfriend moved in with me a couple of months ago. Before that he was living in his parents’ house. He has never been married and doesn’t have any children. We both have good jobs and he makes just as much money as I do. I have a couple of children I have been raising on my own as their father is not in the picture.

  My problem is my boyfriend never gives me any money for the rent or groceries or utility bills unless I ask him for it. When I ask he gives me whatever I need, but he never offers without being asked. This bothers me no end.

  Queenie, shouldn’t he pay his share without being asked?—Hate asking for money

 

Dear Hate asking,

  Your boyfriend may believe you would be offended if he offered you money without being asked. Or he may be a mama’s boy whose parents have always supported him and who has never had to pay his own way.

  Whatever the reason, he should be paying his share of the household expenses without being asked, but you should have worked this out with him when he first moved in.

  Stop waiting for him to man up. Sit down with him now, work out a household budget and settle the matter of who contributes how much and how the household finances are going to be handled.